Unlocking the Power of Asking for Help at Work: Embracing Strength and Success

Why are we so reluctant to ask for help at work?

Why is asking for help at work still a bit of an uncomfortable topic for so many, why are we still a bit on the
uncomfortable side having this chat with our boss.

Are we that afraid to come off our super woman perch.

Even if you’re the most organised person you know and willing to work round the clock to meet your goals, you won’t always be able to go it alone, it’s not realistic and there are times we all need some help and to renegotiate deadlines.

Sooner or later, even superstars need to ask for help at work. When that happens, you might panic. Our culture tends to reward individualism, strength and pulling ourselves up by our straps. Admitting that you need a hand can feel like failure, especially for high achievers.

Its ok to ask for help

Ask for help at work

It took me many, many years through my career to learn its ok to ask for help at work, the most successful leaders among us know when its time to ask for help and when they have reached their limitations. While the first time I asked for help at work was scary, I’m so glad I did it.

My only regret was not doing it sooner. I had a tendency to take on too much, say yes to everything, people please and burn out. When I reached this point, I was snappy irritable and not nice to be around. I typically took on more and more to validate my accomplishments which meant the snappy pattern was often and looking back I probably needed help more than I was prepared to admit.

As a leader it is very important that we normalise asking for help within our teams. We need to stop wearing the lone ranger like a badge of honour and understand that the willing work horse really does take twice the load.

Asking for help is fully acceptable, it’s the smart thing to do but like everything its about how you position the ask, there’s a right way and a wrong way to go about it.

When asking for help at work some pointers I recommend are

  1. Don’t wait until the last minute to ask for help, everyone is busy and delaying the ask may have a knock-on effect on someone else’s deadline. Ask as soon as you feel your drowning a bit.
  2. Approach positively, whatever you do, don’t go to your boss with a complaint instead of a request for support. “Don’t go in there saying, ‘I have too much work’ because …. Remember it’s likely your boss is under pressure too, keep it positive and even offer some solutions to the table.

It is important to understand that asking for help at work is not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength. It demonstrates that you know how and where to get help when you’re stuck and need it.

In addition, asking for help or support is a great way to build relationships, as it makes the person who asked for help feel validated. Also, make sure you are known as someone who also supports others when asked.

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